30x30x30 Blogathon Post #3: June 3rd - Srinivas Rao
We are cruising into Day 3 of the Blogathon and Srinivas Rao is here to educate us on the things we should have learned in school but never did. Make sure to check out his blog called The Skool of Life. Srinivas is an insightful writer and I have learned a SH*T load from his blog posts including the one he has contributed below.
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When You Can’t Imagine Doing Anything Else
A few days ago my sister graduated from medical school. When you consider the decade of schooling that goes into it, our family is obviously very proud of what she’s accomplished. During happy hour after her graduation, I asked her “when did you know that this was what you wanted to do?” Although she had the desire to become a doctor since junior high school, she said there came a point in college when she realized she couldn’t imagine herself doing anything else. Her desire to become a doctor went from being a career choice to a calling.
So many of us ignore our calling, neglecting the most important factor in finding work we love. We confuse survival with success and get caught up in the ego driven pursuit of a life that looks good on paper. Fear, self doubt, risk aversion and the hidden dangers of other people’s expectations keep us from taking a leap of faith.
The Difference Between What’s Good for You and What’s Best for You
What’s good for you is safety, security, and comfort. Play it safe, drive through life with the emergency break on, and don’t get too close to the edge. This is how many people approach life. When we operate from this place, we become the victim of self imposed limitations. Doing what’s best for you is hard. You’ll be judged, criticized, and questioned for your choices. The parental sign off or seal of approval is something that we all strive for. There will even be moments when it feels like you’re not doing what’s best for you. But if you don’t trust your gut instead of popular opinion, it always comes back to bite you in the ass.
You must resist the temptation to quit. When you get to the point of no return it’s inevitable that you’ll exceed your own expectations.
Dreams and Ambitions Come in Different Shapes, Colors and Sizes
Some of us are lucky enough to have our calling and our careers blend, while others have to embrace the sex and cash theory. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But many people paint their masterpiece in black and white. They become victims of social programming and see the world through lenses that they didn’t even choose.
Your crazy wild eyed dreams don’t have to make sense. They don’t need to be justified to anybody. Tweet This!
If you want to visit every country in the world, become fluent in 3 months, or ride 60 foot waves then by all means pursue that goal. Tribes of people doing supposedly impossible things are emerging every single day.
What Do You Want to be When You Grow Up?
It’s a question we’re asked over and over as children? Even though there are no wrong answers to this question, we act as though there are and dreams deflate because of it. “Not everybody can be… you can’t, it’s not possible”…fill in the blank and “you should, it’s best if” and the cycle of of self doubt begins.
There are probably waves I’ll never surf. But a few days ago, I was toying around with another mission, surf every coastline in in the world where there are waves before I turn 40. Why? Because, to live any other way would be completely insane.
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Thanks Srinivas,
This gives me a lot to think about. I feel like I am caught between that survival and going after a dream or calling like you describe. Thank you!
Todd Nielsen
http://www.asliceofleadership.com
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Thanks Todd for your comment. I really love what Srinivas has to say in this post. He also had a great article in one of his recent Skool of Life newsletters called “Settled v. Settling” or something like that.
Srinivas, please share that article as it also drives home the point of being settled into that ‘calling’ versus just settling for the ‘career’ that makes us unhappy or unfulfilled.
Peter
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Todd,
I think that it’s possible to do both. Obviously there’s going to be a point where the dream takes over. It’s what I call the point of no return. In any journey you’ll reach one. That being said, you need to put food on the table, keep your lights, and keep your head above water. Sometimes that means leveraging practicality as the fuel for your passion. The best explanation I ever got was from Dyana Valentine who told me that you should think of your day job as your first angel investor.
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Hi Srinivas,
I love this post. You nailed it with: “When we operate from this place, we become the victim of self imposed limitations.”
Those self-imposed limitations can become the frame of reference from which we operate, a life-limiting belief. I “woke up” late in my career. My calling and my career are now one and I can never go back to the way it was before. -Jeff
Sounds like you’ve reached what I call the point of no return. It’s an amazing place to get to, Once you reach that place, there’s no turning back.
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Hi Srinivas,
Thank you so much for this post. When I was 28 I had a major life altering experience and since then, I have lived life the way in the way that is best for me. You are absolutely right; it isn’t easy at times. Judgement and criticism can be loud and incessant voices but I couldn’t live any other way. I love connecting with others who live from the same place. Thanks for being so transparent and being a voice out there for people who may be teetering on the edge of no return and wondering if they should jump.
Hey, make sure you post pictures of all of those coast lines.
Cheers,
Sharon
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